In this powerful conversation, Daniella Mestyanek Young and Rebecca unpack how systems—from the military to corporate culture to parenting ideologies—often rely on cult-like tactics to demand obedience, erase individuality, and sell comfort as a virtue. Together, they examine the roles of love bombing, future faking, and authoritarian control in everyday life, and ask what it means to reclaim personal autonomy after indoctrination.

We talk about what happens when you stop waiting for permission, why “just doing what you're told” is a dangerous lesson to teach children, and how spontaneous joy can be its own form of resistance. Whether you’re unpacking your own experience in high-control spaces or just trying to navigate late-stage capitalism without losing yourself, this episode is a resonant, no-holds-barred deep dive into the systems that shape us—and how to start unlearning them.

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You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured

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Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook

Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8

Takeaways

• Discomfort is not a crisis—growth often requires sitting with uncertainty instead of seeking immediate solutions.

• Future faking and love bombing are common tactics in cults, corporations, and toxic relationships—and recognizing them can help reclaim autonomy.

• Obedience-based parenting trains children to perform compliance rather than develop critical thinking and emotional safety.

• Systems of control thrive in chaos—cult-like groups gain power when people are vulnerable, overwhelmed, or craving certainty.

• Spontaneous joy and bodily autonomy are radical acts, especially for those recovering from high-control environments.

• Not all mentorship is healthy—if you’re seeking someone to tell you what to do with your life, you might be looking for a cult leader, not a guide.

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